Discussing leaving together is unlikely to be your first conversation of the evening (and if it is, you might want to check your pockets) so you should have already spelled out your position in much less obvious ways. Repeating something pathetic like, “But…just for fun, yeah?” will only make us angry.
First, if we’ve only just met and we’re offering/agreeing to leave with you, we know precisely what this is. However vague or capricious this might sound, the rules here are actually fairly simple. Whatever the set-up, be confident, be courteous, be open. In fact, she could very well whisper it in your ear women hold the cards in this situation. It can take the form of anything from a shared look to a knowingly whispered, “Do you want to get out of here?” in her ear. What does is a correct reading of the situation. Be it bar, club, restaurant, party or gig – the venue doesn’t matter. RELATED: 5 things you should never say to a naked woman
Here is the perfect life cycle of the 12-hour relationship. We are here to tell you that the sweet spot exists, somewhere between Neil Strauss and Mr Darcy – both of whom, incidentally, could really have done with reading this. We just don’t need you jamming a stick in our spokes by employing some kind of awkward idea of chivalry (or, worse still, no sense of chivalry at all). To put it bluntly, if we’re up for it, we’re up for it. Male courtship behaviour, to coin an especially anachronistic phrase, hasn’t shifted at the same pace as female attitudes. Crucially, the survey found women were slightly more likely than men to have indulged. In the 2009/10 Great Australian Sex Survey, for example, 68.5 per cent of respondents admitted having a one-night stand. More recently, however, reports show that just as many women as men say they’d take the fetching inquisitor up on his offer. A study conducted by researchers at Florida State University and the University of Hawaii back in 1989 revealed that, while 70 per cent of men would agree to casual sex with an attractive woman who propositioned them, not a single woman would do the same when the tables were turned. And if that surprises you then it proves my next point: men have a way to go before they understand just how much our attitudes to sex have changed. But oh boy, sometimes nothing else will hit the spot.